By Stephen Propst
When we’re dealing with a mood disorder, simplistic, superficial comments — however well-intended — can diminish our energy and dedication, which are required for managing this difficult diagnosis.
Bipolar: A Chronic Condition
People often make comments to me such as, I thought you’d dealt with that. Or, You mean you still get depressed?
My reply is that living with bipolar is still a big deal. I struggle with depression routinely, mania occasionally, and the overall impact of the condition daily.
Over the years, people have suggested that I should: find the right Rx, exercise more, get a job, get over it—you get the idea.
Such simplistic, unrealistic statements do more harm than good. A chronic, complex condition requires consistent, comprehensive care. A quick fix doesn’t cut it!
Good Intentions with Bad Consequences
Friends and family usually have the best of intentions. But some suggestions—even when not meant to be hurtful—can have negative consequences. Superficial comments can diminish the dedication required to deal with a difficult diagnosis.
In tense times or any really stressful situation, I have to double up on maintaining my mood. If others respond by doubling down on me, that can further aggravate matters. (Interestingly, I’m finding that people are typically more empathetic when we’re all confronting the same challenges!)
Take a moment and think about what you’ve said to your loved one. Do you ever make potentially problematic comments like, You’re not trying hard enough. You’re worked up over nothing. You’re lazy; you just need to get a job. It’s all in your head.
It’s time to make your conversations more constructive by using encouraging, empowering statements like, Never give up hope. Let me know how I can help. I know that finding the right treatment is not easy. There’s no way for me to fully understand all you’re facing, but I’m always here for you.
Constructive Conversations with Loved Ones
Family and friends play a vitally supportive role in the lives of people with bipolar. We know you want what’s best for us. Occasionally, however, you may say something that’s more hurtful than helpful. Such words and actions can have unintended consequences. It’s worth examining what interactions might unintentionally have a detrimental impact on a person’s battle with bipolar.
Here are five questions to ask yourself.
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