By Stephen Propst
When talking with a loved one who has bipolar, it’s vital to remain cognizant of what you say — especially to avoid using words that could undermine their recovery. Here are my top tips for supportive communication.
Knowing what to say when you’re speaking to someone who is living with bipolar can be challenging. You may unintentionally or unknowingly be using words that are disheartening and discouraging—perhaps even debilitating. If you want to provide your loved one with genuine hope and help, make an effort to use reinforcing language. In other words, watch your words! Here are 10 sound strategies for making your conversations more constructive. Each recommendation is followed by an example of an empathetic expression.
1. Your loved one has a diagnosis; she’s not her diagnosis.
No one should be defined by a diagnosis.
“You may have bipolar, but I see you—the person I’ve always known, respected, and loved.”
2. Be useful by making your loved one feel useful.
Take his situation into account, but don’t forget his abilities.
“To the extent you feel up to it, I could use your help today.”
3. Listen first; speak second.
This is tough, especially when we are in a manic phase and we hardly let you get a word in edgewise.
“I appreciate your sharing what’s on your mind. Now, give me a chance to talk about what I’m hearing and feeling.”
4. Don’t assume; ask specific questions.
Bipolar disorder is a very complex and often-confusing condition. Verify whether what you think is true, instead of presuming what another person is experiencing.
“Let me confirm what you feel my role should be if a crisis were to occur. When and how should I intervene?”
5. Don’t minimize; empathize.
Dealing with bipolar can be overwhelming; it’s impossible to put yourself in your loved one’s shoes. That said, you can still educate yourself as much as possible.
“Though I can’t imagine how hard what you’re facing must be, I’m willing to learn.”
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